Relations and ships

Ahh, isn't it lovely? February is over for this year and now March is in charge. And you know what that means? March brings a nice little thing called spring. Mmmmm yes, enough of this winter nonsense and snow everywhere. Granted is looks pretty but boy is it wet and relatively useless. But spring makes is all better. Birds return home, flowers start to grow and everything becomes lush with green.

Lush and wonderful

I mean just look at that photo, how nice is that. Granted it's not very spring-y outside at the moment, but there's still time. And you know what else spring brings? It brings love in the air. Right? Cheesy as heck, I know, but that's what I heard on the roads so it must be true.

There's just one thing I can't put together at the moment. I think, and please bare with me, there's something prior to the "love in the air" that happens. I say that because recently I've noticed that breaking up relationships is trending. By that I mean people around me are either getting sacked or they do the sacking themselves. In either case there's something going on and the result is the same. 

Some people get upset over it. Some close in and don't tell anyone pretty much anything. For each their own I say, I can't really say much as I haven't gone though any of these things. That by itself is pretty unusual but each time someone asks why don't I have a partner or seek one, I just shrug. Then I see these people who are having a hard time because their loved ones did or didn't do something. As I see that, I am glad that I don't also have those problems to worry about. I have enough of other shit out there and I don't have any desire to spend even more energy on things which should actually make me feel better and offer support.

Like I said, I don't have such experience of my own, but I can still observe other people and learn from their mistakes without making the same ones myself. Only this way I miss out on some details and most likely miss a pretty big part of the whole picture which leads to the end result.

I do, however have a pretty nice idea of a relationship with a partner that doesn't seem all that crazy in terms of asking for a lot. I mean, is it really necessary to be with someone who will dump you in the end. Does one really get tired of one another after a long time? Clearly it's possible to overcome that since I also know people who're happy together without any big issue. Sure they have their own ups and down and it can get rough sometimes, but I believe you can sort those things out though a decent conversation and reasoning on both ends.

I do not require someone who I'll be avoiding half of the time just because I don't want to face their whims. Or be glad they're gone for the evening so I can enjoy it by myself for a change. I would expect support from a partner, not even more worries. Of course those things are mutual and I would gladly offer support in return. It's one of those "I give you, you give me" situations. I would expect love, compassion and a person to talk to when I have to. Not someone who would be there because I gave the same things in return while I get nothing back. I believe everything has to be mutual in order to work.

Coming home on a bad day should not result in becoming even worse when someone decides to lay all their problems on you on top of those you already have. There's no need for that, not at that exact moment at least (there are exceptions sure). There is also no need to have pointless arguments over some trivial things. When I hear the reasons behind someone being mad at someone else, I wish with all my heart to change my role with theirs. If someone is upset so much about something trivial such as not getting an xy thing they don't need in the first place, then they're having it easy in their life. 

It's a lot easier to get upset and angry over other's actions, while it takes some energy and thought processes to understand why those things occurred or are still occurring. Everything can be cleared up to the point where both come to the similar terms. For that is requires sitting down and initiate a conversation.

If your face is showing everyone that something is wrong and you want them to ask you what's wrong, be a good sport and answer them. Else there is no point in having such an expression on your face and you make things a lot easier for everyone around you. It's difficult at times, I never said it isn't. Even that is a good enough of a reason to show character and speak up. It eases the tension on all fronts. 

Try it, you won't be disappointed even if outcome isn't as expected, in the end it's still you doing something to fix the problem.

No. Just no.

That's about it for this time around, next time I may even write about something exciting for a change!

As always, stay warm and snugly.

-Gi